Mommy is sick….. I pray for your eye to recover 100%.

Excuse me for my long absence and my apologies for those following me.  It has been an eventful 2016 for me.   Lots had happened, with some incidents leaving permanent damage physically and some emotionally.  I managed to pull through 2016 with GOD’s saving grace, the love of my husband, sons and support of family members.  I was provided a chance to rethink my priorities, and questioned myself on what is important to me.

I can’t feel my face!

It started in the morning during late May 2016.  I went in to work feeling unwell. Within 5 minutes after I stepped into the office, my right eye was dropping to a close and I can’t control my eyelid to open it up. My right cheek started to feel strange too, there seems to be a numbing sensation that was enough to set me panicking.

The immediate thought I had was “Am I going to suffer a stroke?

I left work without any hesitation and admitted myself into A&E.  I was kept in the observation ward and was treated as a priority case. For the next 4 hours the doctor run loads of blood test, went for an X-ray and MRI to rule out stroked.  Fortunately, and probably unfortunately, they detected a virus infection from my blood test results that explained the symptoms.  They confirmed it was Bell Palsy.

What is Bell’s palsy?

Bell’s palsy is a paralysis or weakness of the muscles on one side of your face. Damage to the facial nerve that controls muscles on one side of the face causes that side of your face to droop . The nerve damage may also affect your sense of taste and how you make tears and saliva. This condition comes on suddenly, often overnight, and usually gets better on its own within a few weeks.
Bell’s palsy is not the result of a stroke or a transient ischemic attack (TIA). While stroke and TIA can cause facial paralysis, there is no link between Bell’s palsy and either of these conditions. But sudden weakness that occurs on one side of your face should be checked by a doctor right away to rule out these more serious causes.”
http://www.webmd.com/brain/tc/bells-palsy-topic-overview#1iiIt 

Relief!!!

It definitely was a great sign of relief for me.  I was familiar with Bell Palsy as my mom had this condition 7 years back.  I knew what needed to be done to get myself treated.  The race is  against time

Things never go the way you plan.

Things went on fine for a couple of days after treatment. Then I started having problem with my vision.  My right vision started to blur and I could hardly see at night. I was referred to an eye specialist immediately by my neurologist.  Test results showed that there is a water growth in the middle of my eye that causing the obstruction of my vision,  they termed it Central serous retinopathy (CSR).  Apparently, I do not take well to steroid and it was the side effect the medication to cure Bell Palsy.

A photographic scan below illustrate how the water can impact my visual and the gradual move of the water downwards.  The cross section photos showed the gap caused by the water affecting my vision.  The gap finally closed up after 3 months and we ruled out the need for laser surgery to rid the water.


L &  L – Love and Lessons

The journey to recovery from Bell Palsy was both weary in body and spirit for me.  What I have learnt from this experience was that ultimately, it was family that cared and worried about you the most.  My oldest rascal was extremely concerned when he saw my face paralysis.  He asked me almost every day when I will get better.  He was also unusually quiet when he went about his daily activities. He hushed his younger brother a lot, telling him that mommy needs to rest when he gets too playful.  I was very touched by his actions and more so when he told me quietly one day, “Mommy, I pray everyday to GOD for your eyes to recover 100%”.

This sentence alone has provided me the strength and will to get well.  I am grateful that my family will always be there for me.  My aged Dad that was helping me to care for my boys so that I can get sufficient rest.  I am grateful that Jesus is always watching over me.  The combination of both prayers and family love is good enough medication as any doctor’s prescription.

“It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

Deuteronomy 31:8

Sometimes we forget what is important – the feelings of our child.

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Inspirational

I have been contemplating about writing and felt inspired when I saw my friend’s blog.  As a working mother of two active and mischief boys, I made sure that I find time to plan my boys’ birthday party, which is also the biggest event in our household every year.  This helps when their birthdays are just two days apart and do they have common friends at pre-school.

Negotiation Skills 

As the boys get older, they started to form their own opinion on matters andTropper this goes without saying on the theme of the party.  Having gone through two fun theme parties with their event planner mommy, they began to develop certain expectation.  It made me want to share my thoughts on motherhood.  There goes……….establish certain expectation.  Ethan, who was turning 6 and Elijah 3, has different ideas. Each insisted on their own likes, “Big Hero 6” for Ethan and “Cars” for Elijah which escalated to shouting matches.  Not a good start, fortunately, mommy have some tricks up her sleeves.

Instead of insisting on my way (which was very tempting), I thought that this was a good opportunity for them to pick up some negotiating skills.

“The results of teaching children to negotiate conflict can be profound.  Children begin to learn that others have needs and wants, which are important.  They also learn to identify their own needs in situations, how to be assertive and respectful, and to communicate effectively.  As well, when negotiating conflict respectfully, children learn to cope with uncomfortable situations in a direct and open manner, where appropriate boundaries can be set, and everyone’s needs are considered. ” ~ Maximize Your Talent 

I made the message very clear to the boys that they have to decision and agree on one common theme else there will be no party. Each tried to muscle into having their own way for a start and progress to throwing suggestions to entice each other when they did not make any headway.  It was fun to hear their conversation and how they point out to each other how attractive their choice was.  I did give a little push and suggested the latest craze “Starwars” and they both immediately jumped into it.

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Boy’s birthday invite card

Planning the Party

Now that the theme has been decided, the boys were thrilled to work with me on the cake design and food they wanted to have.  They also insisted on engaging a magician for entertainment. Right down to their attire, they got it figured on what they would be wearing, types of decor and colours for the balloons. Daddy was equally happy with their choice of theme and contributed to the party ware.  Finally, a chance for his inner child to enjoy the occasion.

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Working on the party

More times than ever as parents, we want the party to be perfect and tend to forget what the real joy is.  The wake-up call came to me when we were putting the goodie bags together. I stepped away for a moment to come back and found that Ethan had paste dthe Starwars printout lopsided onto the goodie bag.  I reprimanded him for his lack of patience to wait for me to guide him.  He was very upset and reminded me firmly “But Mommy, it is my birthday and why can’t I do it the way I want to?”  For a moment, I was dumbfounded and realised my folly.

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As adults, we are too focus on the end results and many times missed out on what matter most.  Ethan taught me on that day what matter most was his feelings and the moments we shared preparing for the party.  I was able to see his joy being involved in the preparation work. His excitement in contributing to the little details like tying the ribbons onto the bag and ensuring all bags are packed for his friends. Begin younger doesn’t make Elijah think otherwise.  While his motor skills are not as refined as Ethan, he was proud to be part of it in some way.  He made the effort to line up the bottled water in order with his name and his bother’s on display.

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Goodies Bags – 50 of them.
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Lining up the customised mineral water

 

“ENJOY THE MOMENT AND NOT JUST FOCUS ON THE END GOAL.”